“I’m gonna have to get me a white/asian/african/latin, basically non-black gurl…”

People commented, of course, and he says he doesn’t want a black girl because:

• We overlook good men and blame everyone for getting the dumb guy.
• He gets overlooked by black women because he doesn’t have dreads, etc. Presumably, he’s a good guy because he goes on to say that he approaches women like a gentleman, invites them to a movie and/or dinner, but we BS around.

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Oh boy…where do I even begin? And do I even want to go here? I feel led in my spirit to comment lol. I would have commented on his status, but I feel like, hey, maybe I can help someone else who feels like he does.

Ok, if you really want to try dating women of other races, must you announce it to the world through Facebook? I guess it could be a good thing because if that is your mindset, then I’d much rather avoid you at all costs, and I’m sure all us other black women would too- I mean,I already have a BLACK boyfriend…but I digress.

Seriously, what is it with some black men and their need to date women of other races while dissing black women? I mean, I totally get not discriminating when it comes to love and marriage and all that good stuff- I’m all for it. What I am not for is the black guy who says, ‘Ugh, I can’t stand black women. They are so ignorant and loud and ghetto. They don’t know a good man when they see one, etc., etc., etc.’

Number one, have you ever considered that you might actually be the problem? If you keep running into the same type of women, regardless of race, then something is wrong with you! I mean, you’re obviously the common denominator!

Number two, brothas, pleeeeaaaase stop generalizing us and trying to put us in one box. I don’t care if you’ve dated 100, 200, 300 black women and all of them are, for lack of a better stereotype, ”ghetto, loud and uneducated”, all the other millions of other black women in the U.S. are not necessarily that way. And stop trying to find an excuse to date non-black women. Like I said, I’m totally for interracial loving, but please, stop with the bashing…That is all : D

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Jamie

mochawriter.com

Jamie Fleming

MEMPHIS, Tenn. – They’re no longer the only option for African-American students, but the country’s historically black colleges and universities brag that they provide a supportive environment where these students are more likely to succeed.

That, though, is not necessarily true.

An Associated Press analysis of government data on the 83 federally designated four-year HBCUs shows just 37 percent of their black students finish a degree within six years. That’s 4 percentage points lower than the national college graduation rate for black students.

One major reason: the struggles of black men. Just 29 percent of HBCU males complete a bachelor’s degree within six years, the AP found.

A few HBCUs, like Howard and all-female Spelman, have much higher graduation rates, exceeding the national averages for both black and white students. But others are clustered among the worst-performing colleges in the country. At 38 HBCUs, fewer than one in four men who started in 2001 had completed a bachelor’s degree by 2007, the data show. At Texas Southern, Voorhees, Edward Waters and Miles College, the figure was under 10 percent.

To be sure, women are outperforming men across education, and many non-HBCUs struggle with low graduation rates. And the rates don’t account for students who transfer or take more than six years, which may be more common at HBCUs than at other schools.

Read the rest–>Men struggling to finish at black colleges

Jamie Fleming