I was just on Facebook procrastinating doing a little social networking, and I came across this status from a black guy (this is important):
“I’m gonna have to get me a white/asian/african/latin, basically non-black gurl…”
People commented, of course, and he says he doesn’t want a black girl because:
- We overlook good men and blame everyone for getting the dumb guy.
- He gets overlooked by black women because he doesn’t have dreads, etc. Presumably, he’s a good guy because he goes on to say that he approaches women like a gentleman, invites them to a movie and/or dinner, but we BS around.
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Oh boy…where do I even begin? And do I even want to go here? I feel led in my spirit to comment lol. I would have commented on his status, but I feel like, hey, maybe I can help someone else who feels like he does.
Ok, if you really want to try dating women of other races, must you announce it to the world through Facebook? I guess it could be a good thing because if that is your mindset, then I’d much rather avoid you at all costs, and I’m sure all us other black women would too- I mean,I already have a BLACK boyfriend…but I digress.
Seriously, what is it with some black men and their need to date women of other races while dissing black women? I mean, I totally get not discriminating when it comes to love and marriage and all that good stuff- I’m all for it. What I am not for is the black guy who says, ‘Ugh, I can’t stand black women. They are so ignorant and loud and ghetto. They don’t know a good man when they see one, etc., etc., etc.’
Number one, have you ever considered that you might actually be the problem? If you keep running into the same type of women, regardless of race, then something is wrong with you! I mean, you’re obviously the common denominator!
Number two, brothas, pleeeeaaaase stop generalizing us and trying to put us in one box. I don’t care if you’ve dated 100, 200, 300 black women and all of them are, for lack of a better stereotype, ”ghetto, loud and uneducated”, all the other millions of other black women in the U.S. are not necessarily that way. And stop trying to find an excuse to date non-black women. Like I said, I’m totally for interracial loving, but please, stop with the bashing…That is all : D
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Jamie
Jamie,
I agree 100% with your post. HE is the common denominator in his situation. And if he wants to date women of other ethnicities, that’s fine. I don’t feel he needs to announce it on facebook or on any other site for that matter.
I have a problem with anybody announcing to the world that they won’t date someone in their ethnic group.
Yeah, I see what you’re saying about announcing it to the world, but at least other people will see he’s ignorant and hopefully stay away.
Thanks for your comment!
For a person to review and reflect on the things that they are doing to draw these people is too much like right…we live in an age where personal accountability is a foreign concept.
After a while you have to look at the pattern and then look at the common denominator-why do you feel so poorly about yourself that you keep falling for these kinds of women?
wow.. that’s interesting…
I agree with this post and all the comments.
@Wondering in Grand Rapids – awesome point. “Personal accountability” would be key in revealing why people attract a certain type of personality.